The Power of Letting Go: What I Learned from Mel Robbins’ “Let Them” Theory
Have you ever found yourself bending over backward trying to control the uncontrollable? Maybe it’s trying to prove your worth, explain your heart, or fix a situation that just keeps slipping through your fingers. If you’re nodding along, pull up a rocking chair, because honey, I’ve been there too.
Then I came across something that shifted everything—Mel Robbins’ “Let Them” theory. And let me tell you, it felt like a fresh breeze blowing through the Blog Cabin.
So, what is the “Let Them” theory?
Mel Robbins, in her beautifully raw and relatable way, breaks it down like this:
If people want to walk away, let them.
If they want to gossip, doubt you, misunderstand your heart, let them.
If they don’t invite you, include you, support you, or see your light… let them.
At first, I bristled. “But I’m a fixer,” I thought. “I care. I want to make things right.”
But here’s the truth that settled deep in my soul:
Letting go isn’t giving up. It’s giving yourself back.
What Letting Them Really Means
- It means peace over performance. You don’t need to prove your worth to anyone.
- It means boundaries over burnout. You are not responsible for other people’s reactions.
- It means freedom over fear. You were never meant to shrink yourself to fit into someone else’s comfort zone.
When you stop gripping so tightly to what’s leaving—or what was never really yours to carry in the first place—you create space for what’s meant to find you.
And friend, what’s meant for you won’t require you to chase it.
From My Porch to Yours…
Recently, I caught myself spiraling after someone didn’t respond the way I’d hoped. I replayed conversations, tried to figure out what I could’ve done differently. But then I whispered to myself, “Let them.” And y’all, it felt like the weight of the world slid off my shoulders.
Instead of overthinking, I poured that energy into a cozy corner of the Blog Cabin. Lit a candle. Hugged my dogs. Listened to the wind rustle through the trees. And I remembered who I am—and whose I am.
A Challenge from the Cabin
This week, I want to challenge you to try it too.
Let them.
Let them be who they are.
Let them show you what they value.
Let them teach you how they feel—by their actions.
Then you? You keep being the radiant, resilient soul you are. Water your own garden. Protect your peace. And trust that what’s meant to bloom in your life is already on its way.
You don’t need to hold on so tightly, sweet friend. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is… simply let go.
Love from the Blog Cabin,
Melissa
