Vito Corleone, The Godfather, wisely remarked that a man who doesn’t spend time with his family can never be a real man. This applies to women as well. You can never be a good family man or woman if you rarely spend quality time with the people you call family.
In the modern hectic world where professionals are always in a race against time from Monday to Friday, how do you find time to have meaningful moments with the people you love? It all boils down to taking full responsibility for where you direct your attention and giving most of your attention to the few things that matter.
We live in a world of tremendous distraction. With hundreds of notifications going off on your phone and computer, being able to focus on the few things that matter and directing your attention from the minutiae of life is a beneficial skill.
There’s always enough time to do the most important things. Here are some things you can spare a few hours every week to do to increase the number of fulfilling moments you have with the people you love.
Unplug from Your Gadgets
It is likely that there are more gadgets in your house than there are people. You have phones, laptops, tablets, smartwatches, and TV that is probably always blaring in the background even when no one is paying attention to it.
With so many gadgets screaming for your attention, there has never been a more appropriate time to learn how to just unplug from it all and give your attention to the people around you.
When you’ve been at the office all day, it is kind of self-defeating to spend the only moments you have in front of your family glued to your phone screen.
Actually, Use Your Allotted Vacation Time
The company you work for doesn’t care about you as much as your family does. If you can afford a family vacation, not taking advantage of your allotted vacation time is denying your family a chance to bond and spend lots of fun moments together.
Some people think they will get more work done or appear more loyal to the companies they work for if they don’t take time off. This couldn’t be farther from the truth. The truth is, you will be far more productive and creative if you are well-rested. There are far more weekdays in a year than weekends, so it stands to reason that if you were to work for every single weekday, you’d be too exhausted to work by December.
A family vacation is a chance to create amazing memories and catch up with your family members. With many luxury resorts now offering family packages, finding something that suits your situation is as simple as calling or emailing a family-friendly resort.
Come Home to a Family Dinner Every Day
Dinner with the family is one of those traditions that should be maintained no matter how hectic your work life is. Sharing a meal with your loved ones every day allows you to share what’s going on in your lives and to notice small changes – both positive and negative – in your loved ones so that you can commend them or steer them toward the right path.
The benefits of eating dinner with the family extend beyond the strong relationships you build as a result. Nutritionally, eating dinner as a family ensures that children get all the nutrients they need as the adults on the table will encourage them to eat more fruits and vegetables.
In the old days, family members would work together on the farm, play music, and dance together, and the young ones would help grandma stitch. The dynamics have changed tremendously over the years and having a meal together is one of the few remaining things you can depend on to bring the entire family together at one time. It doesn’t have to be complicated either, you can use a simple meatloaf recipe that everyone will enjoy to get your family together. Doing a simple meal might seem like the easy way out, but it’s the gesture that counts and the family time that matters.
Assist the Kids with Schoolwork
Helping the kids with schoolwork is a productive way to spend time with your children. Not only do you get to spend quality time with them, but you also get to evaluate how well they are doing in school.
You should not be overly judgmental when helping your kid with their schoolwork. If you are heavily critical or put a lot of pressure on them, they won’t enjoy the experience, and the whole exercise will be negative rather than positive. Try and encourage them effectively–not just with school work, but in general.
Establish Family Traditions
Every family should have a set of traditions that involve all members of the family doing something together. Family traditions can be as simple as having one designated movie night every week, shopping over the weekend as a family, going to the park on a Sunday afternoon, or even sparing a weekend afternoon to visit grandma.
You should do these activities on the set days without fail – when circumstances allow – for them to qualify as traditions. The entire family should be committed to showing up every week for these sacred activities.