3 Tips for Newly Single Parents
Going through a divorce is one of the most painful things you can imagine. I’ve seen so many of my friends struggle to keep their families together during such a difficult time. As painful as the experiences have been for them, they have inspired me with their resilience and strength. I’ve compiled a list of tips for newly single parents based on the things I’ve seen friends do in this situation. I promise y’all, if you follow this advice, you’ll adjust to things a little easier.
Establish a Parenting Plan
The most vital tip for newly single parents is to develop a parenting plan with your former spouse. As tough as it may be, you’ll need to be as communicative as possible with each other to make things easier for your children. Consult legal counsel if you think you’ll need another party present during mediation. A legal team will help you guys figure out a parenting plan that works for the two of you while keeping the child’s interests at the forefront. You’ll also need to discuss potential spousal and child support options. Please, try your best to be as amicable as possible.
Work Through Your Emotions
Newly single parents must realize it’s okay to be sad. No one expects you to be 100% fine all the time. Give yourself some time to work through your emotions. You don’t have to pretend that you’re completely okay with how everything is going. Please, y’all, rely on your support system to get you through this difficult time. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been a shoulder to cry on or planned a girls’ night for one of my newly single friends. Don’t be afraid to reach out when you need help. Also, never blame yourself for your marriage not working out. A lot of my divorced girlfriends feel guilty about the situation. I always tell them no one is at fault, and they’ll be happier once they get past the grief.
Explore Your Interests
Many of my friends have struggled with becoming single again. It’s hard to see yourself as an individual when you’ve been a part of a couple for so long. I try my best to help them focus on the positives. I encourage them to use this time as an opportunity to explore their interests. I tell them to fall in love with themselves again and discover what they want out of life. I typically partake in a lot of these adventures with them. Y’all, I’ve been to more pottery classes and book clubs than anyone you’ve ever met.
