No one is born with mental toughness; it is something that must be cultivated over time. With the right amount of discipline and a willingness to keep improving, you can develop a strong mind and go after the things you want in life. Keep reading to learn how you can develop your mental strength.
1. Improve Your Self-Confidence
The beautiful thing about self-confidence is that it’s something no one can give you and something that no one can take away: this confidence must come from within. Moreover, this level of self-confidence will allow you to excel in life. Individuals that are highly confident reportedly earn higher wages, are promoted more frequently, and tend to influence others easily.
True self-confidence starts with how you feel about yourself. If you genuinely like who you are, believing in yourself comes naturally. You can build this self-confidence by taking the time to love on yourself. Practicing exercises like speaking positive affirmations to yourself in the mirror will help you remember all the amazing and wonderful qualities you have to offer. As you speak these words to yourself, hold onto that feeling of being the incredible person that you are as you go through the day.
2. Develop Emotional Intelligence
Mental toughness and emotional intelligence go hand in hand. Individuals that are of strong minds are able to navigate emotionally-charged situations with a level head without being negatively affected by them. With a high level of emotional intelligence, you’ll be able to better connect with others both in your personal and professional relationships.
To expand your emotional intelligence, you must put yourself in situations where you understand your own emotions, as well as others. During conversations with others, try to be an active listener. For example, if a friend tells you about an issue at work, consider asking how that certain situation made them feel, what they did about those feelings and if the situation ended as they’d hoped it would. This will make you more receptive to others’ emotions.
3. Monitor Your Interactions with Toxic People
In life, we sometimes have to deal with people that have negative mindsets or ideas. Whether you have to work with a client that has a bad attitude or you have to report to a boss that is always putting you down, in certain situations, you can’t avoid dealing with these kinds of people. However, when mentally strong individuals do come into contact with these types of toxic people, they learn to keep their emotions in check.
When controlling your reactions with toxic people, everything comes back to self-confidence. Once you know how unbreakable you are, you’ll learn to let the things that toxic people say or do wash over you. By keeping your own frustration or anger in check, you’ll be able to neutralize this person’s toxicity and keep going with your day.
4. Welcome Change
Change is a constant in life. While there’s no way to know for sure what will happen from one moment to the next, people that are mentally strong know how to best prepare for life’s biggest changes. Instead of becoming overwhelmed with the fear of change, these mentally tough people have a plan in place to handle whatever life throws their way.
Though plans certainly change, this characteristic of the strong-minded comes down to one’s willingness to embrace change. People that are stuck in their ways are often too scared of what change means for them. These people are often so afraid that the change will be negative that they do all they can to avoid thinking about or planning for the future.
Alternatively, by becoming a catalyst to change yourself, you’ll find it that much easier to accept change. The more you try new things and learn new skills, the easier it will be to move on when life deals you a different hand.
5. Become a “No” Person
While saying “yes” to things in life is something that mentally tough people do, they also know when it is time to put their foot down. People that are more prone to saying things like “I’m not sure” or “I don’t think so” tend to have more stress. This ambivalence inadvertently triggers guilty feelings as these people will feel bad that they can’t honor the commitment that they “sort-of” agreed to.
Learning to say no with confidence will allow you to focus on the commitments that you have already made. Though you may disappoint someone with a “no” at the moment, they’ll learn to understand and respect your decisions all the more.
6. Take More Risks
Fear has its place in life, but when it stops you from making important decisions, regret is right around the corner. Mentally tough people look fear in the eye and keep going. Instead of regretting all the chances they didn’t take, they kick fear aside to take on new risks.
Of course, mentally strong people use their wisdom to take calculated risks, but they don’t let fear hold them back from living their life. If you want to become a risk-taker, challenge yourself regularly by doing something you’ve never done before. Whether it’s applying for a dream job or asking someone out, working through your fears will allow you to develop your mental toughness.
7. Let Your Mistakes Go
We’ve all had that one mistake that we’ve replayed in our heads over and over. While this practice allows one to analyze how a situation could’ve gone differently, it also forces them into an emotional state of constant regret and excessive stress. Though retrospection is important, there comes a time when you need to let things go.
Mentally strong people understand that to err is human. Attending regular sessions with Wellbeing Psychology will help you learn from your mistakes and make better choices in any future similar situations. Save the instant replay for your favorite YouTube videos and move on.
Becoming mentally strong takes time. Just as you exercise to get stronger, you must practice these qualities to become mentally tougher. Keep these seven tips in mind as grow into the strongest version of yourself.