When Grace Doesn’t Feel So Gracious
Y’all know I’m all about showing grace. I talk about it, I write about it, I live it. But sometimes… sometimes grace has to come with a little grit too.
Recently, I was scheduled to be a guest on the Growth and Grace podcast — or at least I thought I was. Not once. Not twice. But three times I set aside time, prepared my heart and my story, rearranged my calendar, and got into the headspace to show up fully and honestly.
Three times, it was canceled.
And just when I thought we were back on track, I get a message saying she only uses a paper planner and doesn’t check online calendars — after she sent the link to schedule online in the first place. The same link I followed to respect her system.
Whew. Deep breath.
Here’s the thing — I believe in second chances. I believe in showing up with integrity. But I also believe in valuing people’s time and energy. And I’m learning that grace doesn’t mean letting people walk all over your boundaries or waste your time.
So today, I’m choosing to speak up — not in anger, but in honesty. Because if we’re talking about growth, let’s remember that growth also looks like accountability. And if we’re talking about grace, let’s make sure we extend it both ways — not just when it’s convenient.
Not every opportunity is meant for me, and maybe this wasn’t the right fit. And that’s okay. I’ll keep showing up, keep sharing my story, and keep giving grace — just not at the expense of my time or worth.
